Dating After Divorce

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The lawyers have stopped circling, alimony and child support are settled and you haven’t gotten laid in five years.

There you are in line at the grocery store and the smell of the woman in front of you is making the hairs on the back of your neck tingle!

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You’re back! It’s time to start dating again.

Dating After Divorce Starts Now!

Well almost. You have been out of the game, you are feeling beat up and you are older. You know nothing about online dating and social networking. Furthermore, there are wolves out there just like your ex.

You decide to stay home and curl up into the fetal position.
Well, I am to here to fix all that.

Try these four dating after divorce tips;

Look in the mirror
You are now single; it’s time for some self-discovery. Ask yourself who you are now and what do you want. Brainstorm and start to explore different hobbies and different ways of thinking.

Remember, when dating after divorce your self-worth might have been laid to rest for years by your dis-functional ex. Find someone that will complement your traits and not compromise them.

Easy Fella
Step one toe at a time into the pool. Don’t just dive in. Why? You will over compensate for your ex’s shortfalls.

She never wanted to go out. Now you are dying to date a party girl. This could be the wrong move, one toe at a time.

Date some girls and then step back and re-access. Is she really someone you could fall in love with?

This is the time when you don’t need to compromise.

Enjoy Yourself
Focus on having a good time. The crushing burden of not meeting someone’s expectations is gone. All the guilt is removed, so have fun!

Forget about concentrating on finding a spouse, concentrate on enjoying yourself and the company of someone new. And guess what?

If you aren’t having fun, dump her ass and experience someone else.

Change course whenever you like, to whatever you like until you find the proper mix.

Stop Dating
Yes you heard me, stop dating. Well almost. What I mean is don’t try so hard. Many of my friends, including myself have tried so hard to find the right girl that we "over date."

We overload ourselves with the pressure of finding Miss Right and it doesn’t happen. So step back, stay social but in different ways. Join a class, or try something new.

I’m always amazed that when you stop trying so hard…she shows up in your life.

Dating after Divorce – The Three Golden Rules

So, you’re thinking about getting yourself back out in the game but you’re not sure you’re ready to play, or even what the rules are if you’re one of the newly divorced. 

You’re lonely, but not that lonely, and you figure you’re going to get zero traction with the big D tattooed on your forehead.  Or you feel you may end up in some psycho rebound relationship because your head still isn’t on straight.

Those are all possible scenarios, but you don’t have to go there.  If you follow three absolute rules before you put on your dancing shoes, you’ll be ready to tango when the music starts.

The absolute do not take one step back into single-hood until you do it Golden Rule is: 

Figure out what you want to get out of dating –

And be honest.  Do you need someone to listen to your tales of woe?  Do you have to prove to yourself you still have it?  Are you on the fast track to remarriage so you don’t have to figure out how to turn on the stove or work the washing machine? 

Or are you running through the evils of your ex in your head and want payback from someone of the opposite sex? 

If it’s the last, do the rest of us newly divorced a favor and find another outlet for your anger. 

You’re entitled to it, you earned it, and now you’ve got a chance to use your past situation to figure out what you are not going to fall for again. 

If it’s any of the others, you might not be ready for anything more than safe sex with someone who reminds you of your buddy’s mom. 

And you’re likely to fall for the first woman who looks at you like you aren’t a bug she wants to squash, so be careful.  Chances are very good you’re going to end up divorced twice –

unless you follow the next rule.

Which is: 

Figure out what you did right – and wrong – the first time around. 

Did you think with your head, your heart, or your other head?  Did you fall for the hair color, the pedigree, or the chemistry? 

You just failed your final exam in Monogamy 101, was it because you don’t believe in it to start with? 

Unless you lie about your status, which breaks the third Golden Rule, she’s not going to let you past her bedroom door until she knows what’s in your baggage.

Be honest, that’s the third Golden Rule

With one word of caution.  Disclosing the truth about your situation shouldn’t consume four full hours of the evening going through endless “and then she” truths about your ex. 

It should give you an out, though, if you had a momentary brain spasm that suddenly clears and you realize you made a huge mistake.

Be honest about what you’re looking for, what you’re capable of, what you are deathly afraid will repeat again, and what you’re not willing to put up with ever again – at the very least with yourself.  And stay tuned for tips on what to say about your situation when.

Dating after Divorce Conclusion
So take a gut check, have some fun, follow the three golden rules and discover the new and improved you. Don’t compromise.

Employ these dating after divorce tips and you may be surprised when the woman of your dreams walks into your life!

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